My Birthday!

My friends decided to throw me a nice Birthday party for my 58th Birthday this last weekend.  Its was a pot-luck event. There were many nice people there. The food was delicious and inviting! It is so hard to be out here in the dating single world no matter how nice people are and it is just a day to day struggle. I feel like the older we are the more lax we are and the more we divulge about ourselves. Sometimes its just plain awkward.  Never-the-less the night seemed to have a lot of fun in store for us. 

 

As the night progressed we all sat by people we knew and had a great time eating and talking. A friend of mine brought her mother who was elderly. She was a real sweet-heart and I had a fun time getting to know her. She had a nice smile, great personality, and was a lot of fun! I told her what a cute lady she was and she would have to come to the next party.  She said to all of us that she was too old. I let her know that she was never too old to have fun! She just smiled back at me.

 

My friend ( Chris) made a giant gorgeous red-velvet sheet cake covered with chocolate dipped strawberries and boy was it beautiful sight to behold! I was so grateful to her for all her thoughtfulness and hard work. She just barely met me last week but yet she was willing to make me this enormous birthday cake. There was also a nice lady there making Indian fry bread (scones) in the kitchen- that were great! A nice man from Italy was so proud of his spaghetti fritada he made for us. My other friend that put the party on, (Beth) is really getting in the swing of things and wanting to host these pot-luck parties. It is so fun to see her enthusiasm, even though she lost her husband a few years ago. These ladies had a  nice little event going until I came on the scene and started exploding with ideas. I have helped turn this event into quite the fun party! Now we are having  pot-luck events twice a month and people are inviting their friends. So they are catching on. I was down to zero friends almost and now I have tons. I did it all through prayers with our Father in Heaven.  So, for me this turns out to be a nice support group since I didn't have one. The lesson learned here is, if you don't have much family you have to create one and life goes on......Beverly

Darned if You Do - Darned if You Don't

Hello everyone hasn't it been a fun start to the new year? I want to share some of the struggles I have had being back in the dating world. 

 

I have been single so long I have hardly ever left the dating world ha.. ha..! I recently attended a fun singles "break your fast potluck" and had a very nice time. I was a little apprehensive to go at first but when I got there everyone was so nice and friendly. There was mostly women there but there was one older Italian man there. He was very brave to be there with so may women , never the less, he brought his home baked bread and joined in all the fun. What a brave soul. 

 

Well, I thought the ladies there were so nice and I felt bad that there was not more men there for them to meet. So I really wanted to help them and make this singles pot luck a big success and draw a lot more people out to it. There are a lot of older single ladies that attend and I thought if they could only meet their prince charming wouldn't that be wonderful for them. Me  included of course!! So I set out and did a lot of advertising and told everyone I possibly could. I made fliers, emailed a lot of single guys, contacted a few different wards, and called everyone I knew! I was just sure this was going to be the best most successful singles event ever. This was going to be my ticket and these other sweet ladies to meeting our soul-mates! I invited some cute guys and one of which I had  previously dated. So I was so excited for the big event to start!

 

When I got to the singles pot luck with my delicious food I had prepared, I noticed all the men were there early and siting at the same table. There sat a cute guy I had invited form the Layton area. He was 7 years older than me but so what. Well pretty soon everything stared falling apart. I had invited my young 25 year old daughter just for fun. The gal in charge had set up rectangular tables in a u shape and as we sat down we had our backs to ever one. So I told my daughter (Cherise) lets move and sit by all the guys that I invited I don't just want to talk to you. So we moved and I ended up sitting across form a guy that I had had one date with and right next to the cute one from Layton. I didn't want to be obvious but there was no other way to do it. Soon all the people came and we all had fun talking and mingling. But nobody was really clicking and all the gals started talking to the guy I liked. Then My dramatic girlfriend came in way late because she could not find the place so she was all upset. I told her about the cute guy from Layton so she went and sat by  him. Then he just decided to up and leave and not tell anyone. So he quietly sneaks out.

After that everyone started leaving. The guy  I had dated (Glen) left early because his eyes were hurting. Then my girlfriend (Karen) the late one, decided I needed to email her phone number to the (Layton) guy I liked. So like a fool I did. Then my daughter (Cherise) says I looked too obvious by sitting right next to the Layton guy. So I got my feelings hurt.

To sum everything up I wish I could go back in time and start over! I just wanted to help us all meet some cute guys and why did I email my girlfriends phone number to the guy I liked??! So live and learn! I was just trying too hard to please everyone else! I hope I learned a very good lesson the hard way. I do not want to try so hard and go overboard and I want to please myself as well.

Stay tuned for more fun of dating through the eyes of a dissapointed 57 year old!!...Beverly

Start of a New Year and a New Life

The start of a new year is a time to see where we are going, measured against the backdrop of where we have been. Let's talk about the past and the future with an eye toward any time of transition and change in in our lives-and those moments come every day. 

 

As a new year begins and we try to benefit from a proper view of what has gone on before, I plead with you not to dwell on days now gone nor to yearn vainly for yesterdays, however good those yesterdays may have been.The past is to be learned from but not lived in! We look back to claim the embers from glowing experiences but not the ashes. And when we have learned what we need to learn and have brought with us with us the best that we have experienced, and then we look ahead and remember that faith is always pointed toward the future. Faith always has to do with blessings and truths  and events that will yet be efficacious in our lives.To yearn to go back to a a world that cannot be lived in now, to be perennially dissatisfied with present circumstances and have only dismal views of the future, and to miss the here and now and tomorrow because we are so trapped in there and yesterday.

 

There is something in many us of that particularly fails to forgive and forget earlier mistakes in life-either our mistakes or the mistakes of others. Its is not good. It is not Christian. It stands in terrible opposition to the grandeur and majesty of the atonement of Christ. To be tied to earlier mistakes is the worst kind of wallowing in the past from which we are called to cease and desist. Let people repent. Let people grow. Believe that people can change and improve. Is that faith? Yes! Is that hope? Yes! Is that charity, the pure love of Christ. Perhaps at this beginning of a new year there is no greater requirement for us that to do as the Lord Himself said He does: " He who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord remember them no more."

 

God doesn't care nearly as much about where you have been as He does where you are and, with His help, where you are willing to go. This is an important matter to consider at the start of a new year-and every day ought to be the start of a new year and a new life! Such is the wonder of faith, repentance, and the miracle of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Keep your eyes on your dreams and goals. Live to see the miracles of repentance and forgiveness, of trust, and divine love that will transform your life today, tomorrow, and forever.............Beverly

Happy New Year!

Hello Everyone,

 

Just thought I would write a quick note about Making our New Years Resolutions. Its that time again! Its a time to look back at all our accomplishments over  the last Year. Its a time to ponder, reflect and rethink the past years doings! Is is a time to take stock of our lives and do some inventory. I say out with the bad and in with the good! Lets not focus on all the couda-shouda-wouda's, but rather lets just focus on what we have done good for this last year! Give your self a pat on the back for all your milestones you made and efforts you put in this year to maybe change some things, or service your did. or just plane good deeds!

Now that you feel great about all the good things you have done over the past year its time to get started for the new year. First we must have the Desire to do great things in this year of 2012! Desire is better than what we want. What we desire comes from the heart and is in harmony with our spirit! We should pour out our heart to Heavenly Father about our desires. Let them be known! We need to follow the spirit and listen to the voice of the holy spirit.We should Have a desire to serve the lord this year and help all mankind. We need to love ourselves and what we do. We need to be kind and patient with our selves. We need to put off the natural man. Lets develop qualities this year to become like God. 

 

This new year lets become selfless, love all of Heavenly fathers children, and treat everyone well! Lets be more charitable and kind and then we will become humble, patient, Christ-like, meek. submissive, and forgiving to name just  a few food qualities. So lets be diligent and seek him. Lets have the true desire in our hearts to do these things. These are the kind of New year resolutions we should be making. Lets rid ourselves of all our sins and bad thoughts. Lets pray more and have faith. Then we will receive what we truly desire! So out with the bad and in with the good!  Its onward and upward!! Lets all make it a wonder, awesome, and fabulous New Year of 2012!!!!....SO GO GET EM!!!!!...Beverly

Merry Christmas

CHRISTMAS THROUGH THE YEAR

                                                   A  little bit of Christmas lives.
                                                   Within the heart each day,
                                                   When you do a kindly dead,
                                                    Give a word of cheer away.
                                                    Why should we save our kindnesses
                                                     For just one special time---
                                                     The world needs love and caring
                                                     When Christmas bells don't chime!

                                                      Reach out a hand to help someone:
                                                      Cheer some heart today.
                                                      The gifts that mean the most
                                                      Aren't those for which we pay.

                                                      Those tinseled scenes have faded
                                                      That mark the yuletide cheer,
                                                      Christmas living in the heart
                                                      Grows brighter through the year!

                                                                                         Kay Hoffman  

Well I just want to wish everyone a very " Merry Christmas" and a very " Happy new Year 2012" Yea!!! Celebrate big!!!!......................See you next year! Beverly   

I Really Have a Wonderful Life

I watched a great movie on TV the other night. It was that good old favorite Holiday classic that most of you watch every year, it's called "A Wonderful Life." It is really a good Christmas movie! I really got into it this year. As I sat and watched it I realized I really do have a wonderful Life. 

 

I could relate to George Bailey as he went through all his trials and started hating his miserable life and his job at the old broken down Building and Loan Company. What really started out all his problems was his attitude. He had a bad attitude when he was dating Mary, his childhood friend.  She had liked him all through school. She had to coax him to be nice to her and to date her. His brother later went on to be a war Hero. George did not get to pursue his dreams because his dad died early on and he had to take over the bank and protect his assets and the people of the town from that mean old Mr. Potter. He nearly drowned as a kid and couldn't hear out of one of his ears. Also his friend Sam Wayne-wright was  a great success in the plastic Industry and so George was a quiet jealous of him. So everything was going wrong in his  life. Things just just kept getting worse and worse. His wife Mary was so kind and loving through all this. Finally when the money from the bank gets misplaced or taken and is gone he has had it! He now wants to jump off a bridge and end his life!

 

How may of us have felt this way at one time or another? Most of us can relate to this story. I know I can. Every Christmas Season gets really hard for me . Its a busy time of year that can make or break us. Well luckily George has an angel that comes from Heaven and saves his life. He helps George see that he really had  a wonderful life after all. It took George almost loosing his life ad never being born to realize just how good he had it! He truly had a great wife and family that loved him. He may have not been rich monetarily but he was rich in his blessings.

 

Well the same goes for me and probably most of us. This great movie helped me realize I have a wonderful life! I am trying to be the most up beat I have ever been through the Holidays! I am trying to be the most giving I have ever been and I am trying to live do all the commandments better than I ever have. I am trying to truly have a Christ centered life! This is where I will find my salvation and my happiness. Going to the temple helps me tremendously. It protects me from the out side evils of the world. The most important thing we can ever do is to remember and love our Savior Jesus Christ. Especially this time of the year. What gifts can we truly give him this Christmas?  We need to invite his spirit into our homes and be as loving, kind,  forgiving, and tolerant as he was. He is truly our King of Kings.

      
So at the end of the movie "Its a wonderful Life" George Bailey is given his  Life back. He doesn't care if he goes to jail as long as he can have his family  and his life everything else is secondary! So he gets his second chance. All his friends, neighbors, and customers came to his aide and rounded up all the money he was missing and gave it to him so he would not go to jail for something he did not do. Isn't this a great story with a great powerful message that really teaches us whats important in this life! 

Well I wish you all a very "Merry Christmas" and a joyous Happy Holiday Season!..........Beverly

Listening to the Spirit Gets us Around Big Stumbling Blocks

Hello everyone and I hope you are enjoying your beautiful Fall Season and giving thanks for all the wonderful things we have and enjoy in this world of ours. The article before last I wrote about a Red Hot week and how I had several little warnings that I did not heed to because I was being a bull head. I learned that I need to slow down and listen to the still small voice. The promptings come as a way to lead and guide us in and protect us in this life. Stumbling blocks are put in our way sometimes to teach us various lessons and prepare us for whats to come. But we need to use building blocks  in our lives to help pave the way to a happy future. We can not pick and choose some of our trials but we can choose how we are going to get around them, survive, and be happy!

 

 My oldest daughter went with me yesterday to a nice neighborhood Turkey Dinner. She lives out in Eagle mountain and it costs a lot of gas money to go to and from there to Sandy. They have made several trips this week. Her husband said she could come and bring all their kids if I would give them a ride back home. He was going to play Hockey at the oval and wanted to bring the smaller car to conserve on gas. He had already made one trip in and had to come back. So I agreed  and said I would help drive them home. Later that afternoon I was standing in the kitchen and received a confirmation or prompting from the still small voice that I would not have to drive the kids home, that Todd would bring the van and drive them home. Later as the turkey dinner was getting over I told my daughter well I better drive you guys home. She replied back: "Todd is coming with the van so you won't need to drive us back to eagle mountain." I said to her why did he change his mind. She said he had received a prompting that he needed to drive them home in the van. Can you believe it we both had the same prompting around the same time!!!!Boy was I happy I did not have to drive them home in the dark!

I want to wish everyone a very " happy Thanksgiving Holiday and season" I hope we can all be in tune in our lives, listen, and make the right decisions.  I leave you with a Holiday poem to enjoy!

    

     _Thanksgiving_

      

        Faith made visible

        In daily living:

        The perfect gift

        Of a grateful heart 

         Florine H, Robinson