Darned if You Do - Darned if You Don't

Hello everyone hasn't it been a fun start to the new year? I want to share some of the struggles I have had being back in the dating world. 

 

I have been single so long I have hardly ever left the dating world ha.. ha..! I recently attended a fun singles "break your fast potluck" and had a very nice time. I was a little apprehensive to go at first but when I got there everyone was so nice and friendly. There was mostly women there but there was one older Italian man there. He was very brave to be there with so may women , never the less, he brought his home baked bread and joined in all the fun. What a brave soul. 

 

Well, I thought the ladies there were so nice and I felt bad that there was not more men there for them to meet. So I really wanted to help them and make this singles pot luck a big success and draw a lot more people out to it. There are a lot of older single ladies that attend and I thought if they could only meet their prince charming wouldn't that be wonderful for them. Me  included of course!! So I set out and did a lot of advertising and told everyone I possibly could. I made fliers, emailed a lot of single guys, contacted a few different wards, and called everyone I knew! I was just sure this was going to be the best most successful singles event ever. This was going to be my ticket and these other sweet ladies to meeting our soul-mates! I invited some cute guys and one of which I had  previously dated. So I was so excited for the big event to start!

 

When I got to the singles pot luck with my delicious food I had prepared, I noticed all the men were there early and siting at the same table. There sat a cute guy I had invited form the Layton area. He was 7 years older than me but so what. Well pretty soon everything stared falling apart. I had invited my young 25 year old daughter just for fun. The gal in charge had set up rectangular tables in a u shape and as we sat down we had our backs to ever one. So I told my daughter (Cherise) lets move and sit by all the guys that I invited I don't just want to talk to you. So we moved and I ended up sitting across form a guy that I had had one date with and right next to the cute one from Layton. I didn't want to be obvious but there was no other way to do it. Soon all the people came and we all had fun talking and mingling. But nobody was really clicking and all the gals started talking to the guy I liked. Then My dramatic girlfriend came in way late because she could not find the place so she was all upset. I told her about the cute guy from Layton so she went and sat by  him. Then he just decided to up and leave and not tell anyone. So he quietly sneaks out.

After that everyone started leaving. The guy  I had dated (Glen) left early because his eyes were hurting. Then my girlfriend (Karen) the late one, decided I needed to email her phone number to the (Layton) guy I liked. So like a fool I did. Then my daughter (Cherise) says I looked too obvious by sitting right next to the Layton guy. So I got my feelings hurt.

To sum everything up I wish I could go back in time and start over! I just wanted to help us all meet some cute guys and why did I email my girlfriends phone number to the guy I liked??! So live and learn! I was just trying too hard to please everyone else! I hope I learned a very good lesson the hard way. I do not want to try so hard and go overboard and I want to please myself as well.

Stay tuned for more fun of dating through the eyes of a dissapointed 57 year old!!...Beverly

Start of a New Year and a New Life

The start of a new year is a time to see where we are going, measured against the backdrop of where we have been. Let's talk about the past and the future with an eye toward any time of transition and change in in our lives-and those moments come every day. 

 

As a new year begins and we try to benefit from a proper view of what has gone on before, I plead with you not to dwell on days now gone nor to yearn vainly for yesterdays, however good those yesterdays may have been.The past is to be learned from but not lived in! We look back to claim the embers from glowing experiences but not the ashes. And when we have learned what we need to learn and have brought with us with us the best that we have experienced, and then we look ahead and remember that faith is always pointed toward the future. Faith always has to do with blessings and truths  and events that will yet be efficacious in our lives.To yearn to go back to a a world that cannot be lived in now, to be perennially dissatisfied with present circumstances and have only dismal views of the future, and to miss the here and now and tomorrow because we are so trapped in there and yesterday.

 

There is something in many us of that particularly fails to forgive and forget earlier mistakes in life-either our mistakes or the mistakes of others. Its is not good. It is not Christian. It stands in terrible opposition to the grandeur and majesty of the atonement of Christ. To be tied to earlier mistakes is the worst kind of wallowing in the past from which we are called to cease and desist. Let people repent. Let people grow. Believe that people can change and improve. Is that faith? Yes! Is that hope? Yes! Is that charity, the pure love of Christ. Perhaps at this beginning of a new year there is no greater requirement for us that to do as the Lord Himself said He does: " He who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord remember them no more."

 

God doesn't care nearly as much about where you have been as He does where you are and, with His help, where you are willing to go. This is an important matter to consider at the start of a new year-and every day ought to be the start of a new year and a new life! Such is the wonder of faith, repentance, and the miracle of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Keep your eyes on your dreams and goals. Live to see the miracles of repentance and forgiveness, of trust, and divine love that will transform your life today, tomorrow, and forever.............Beverly