Strengths Vs. Weaknesses

I have this wonderful friend I always go walking with. She is the sweetest person I have ever met!  She is always there for you, is a very good listener, and has your best interest a heart. That is the definition of a good friend. She would give you the shirt off her back. If she says she is going to do something then follows through and does it. She is very dependable and the best friend ever!  Don't you wish everyone was like that. She also gives very generous of her time which is very important in this life.

It is hard to back in the dating world because a lot of guys are very undependable, flaky, play games, and do not follow though with things. It makes dating very rough and not fun.This lady I am talking about is 72 years old and takes the world by storm. I needed help with moving a big giant solid hardwood table that weighed a ton. I couldn't find anyone to help with it. This little spitfire comes over and helps me move this enormous one-ton table  and she also helped me with some other things. She took a big weight ( ha! ha!) off my shoulders! So in the strengths vs. weaknesses department she has many strengths and very little weaknesses. I hope we can all find and build more strengths in our lives than weaknesses.

 

Beverly

What's on the Inside?

You have heard that old cleche' "It's whats on the inside that counts"! Let's talk about this and kick it around a little bit.It is very true. We need to be loving, kind, genuine, spiritual, honest, tolerant, considerate, patient, gentle, and meek etc. etc. I could go on and on about this.These are all great qualities that can make us a well-balanced wonderful person. I'm sure you have all heard of 'love at first sight'. So if that's the case, isn't it true that people look at our physical appearance first and kind of size us u? (Ha! Ha!)  In my opinion after they size us up then they look on the inside to make sure we are nice person. What do you viewers think?

They did a study in New York City where they put a guy on the corner to sell things and get peoples attention. He was very handsome and good-looking. He was also a sharp dresser. Most people stopped and talked to him -they treated him well. Then they put an average looking ordinary guy on the same corner and most people went right by him and acted like he was invisible! So it is important to be clean, neat, and have a good appearance. By doing so we then come across as a confident person.Then that inner inside confidence and self esteem will shine through and attract people to us.

My old boss used to say confidence is sexy. I think she was totally right. So, the deal is, I say we work on both the  inside and the outside. Our physical outside appearance is important because then people know that we like and care about ourselves.  I have been fighting a major war on my weight! What a battle. I  had a lot more dates when I was thinner. My thyroid went out which caused me to have very low metabolism. Therefore I gained a lot of weight. I joined a gym and work out all the time so I am looking and feeling better. I am trying and that's what counts! So I hope this week that whatever areas you guys need to work on, you will be highly motivated to do so. I wish you a lot of good luck with your endeavors! I know Mr. right will be more attracted to a real self confidant person and that is going to be my goal for this next week!!!!!

Till next time,

Bev

Questions?

Have you ever wondered why we some times question things in our life or even have questions? Well, I have wondered this a lot lately. We know we have certain things (good or bad) we have to go through in this life. So, if it is our destiny why question it? Is it because the not knowing makes us feel insecure and unsafe? Sometimes we feel a deep pit in our stomach! Is it because we don't know the end result or the outcome.? Is it maybe because we can't see or know what's ahead of us in this life?

 Maybe it is because we do not have enough faith. Sometimes I think we do have faith but we are only human. Life gets real hard at times. We just have to endure. Well, I know it's good to question things because that is how we learn and grow. It is also how we get through life. I do know that we need good friends along the way that show us a lot of love and compassion. 

I went to the temple earlier tonight where I took a lot of my questions. As I was going up the side walk I met a young girl sitting on bench by the trees just crying and sobbing her heart out. I asked her if there was anything I could do to help her. She said she had just had a bad day and she need to be by the temple. She had forgot her recommend and couldn't go in but she was in jeans so I did not understand. I asked her if I could give her a hug. She said yes. I gave her a hug comforted her. I think this made her feel better. It made me feel good. I know she was sitting there with a lot of questions about her life. I went in the temple and told one of the workers about this. He said he could look her information up in the computer without her recommend. I went clear back outside to tell her this. She was glad to know, but couldn't go in because she was in jeans. I put her name in the temple.

She was probably upset because she had some trials and did not know what the outcome would be. 

My thought for the day is; show great love and kindness for one another. We need to have compassion for each other and build each other up. We need to have and show unconditional love for one another....times are getting that hard!

Beverly

The Good News

Extra -extra read all about it! This is the greatest news flash of all! Just when I thought my world was coming to an end it is not!! I just went upstairs and I looked out the window and the neighbor behind me is having his 100,000 foot enormous, monstrous, mammoth tree chopped down!! This is a absolute miracle in my life. This tree has driven me nuts for the last 23 years. Every single fall I have over 4-million leafs to rake up! Yes this is Heaven! Every time there is a windstorm or a lightening storm I worry about that tree crashing down on my house!   It happened up the street a few years ago! So yes this is my luckiest day ever!!!!!!There is life after death!! The neighbor is a good neighbor. I just did not like that big old giant tree!

Another milestone in my life, is that guy from Ogden that I have been on a couple of dates with emailed me and asked me how I am doing. Can you believe it? I think he just needs time. I feel so happy just to know he is thinking of me. We will see what happens. I don't think he is the one for me, maybe we will just be friends. So I have learned from all of this is just to be patient, patient and more patient!! Good things happen to all good people. So, again I hope you can take a good message away from all of this! Lets keep in touch.  I would like to hear form all you single people too, because I would also like to pay it forward and line some of you up since I am meeting a lot of men! 

Also, I appreciate and enjoy reading all of your comments. I read every single one.

Later,

Beverly.

Outside the Box

I just wanted to encourage you all to think out of the box this week. I was feeling overwhelmed with my yard - I have quite a big yard to mow. Anyway, after 23 years of mowing the front yard the same way I decided to change directions and go longways across the front lawn. I was now not going up hill and fighting the lawn, I was going with the grain (so to speak) rather than against the grain. Boy I mowed the lawn in 7 minutes or less - it looked great! I always thought I had to mow it the other way (up hill), because it would look better. I found out it looked just as good if not better plus it was easier!

Life is so full of surprises. It is the little things in life that truly make us happy. Isn't it funny how one simple little thing made my life so much easier and happier this week!  Yea!!! that is what I'm talking about! I welcome your thoughts and experiences so please share. I think I will try to use this same metaphor for trying to meet a companion. What do you think?   Beverly

Finding that Light at the End of the Tunnel

So check it out. This week has been a week of nothing but trials something we all experience. I had two floods at the same time in my house. I had some pipes leak under the kitchen sink and cause water damage to the new cabinets I just put in a few months ago. I also had the water heater leak a couple of quarts of water every day onto my basement floor and ruin my new sheet rock down there!

I then had a breakfast for some ladies in the neighborhood that me and a friend had put on and had gone to a lot of work. No one showed up, I thought I would die. Now, mind you a couple of ladies had to cancel and it was something they could not help so we completely understood. One lady got called into work and the other had a funeral out of town so it was truly something they could not help. But never the less it was a trying time. So, I quickly called a neighbor to come and eat. She came right over and we all had a great time. She shared some to very inspirational information with us and everything turned out better after all.

I am in need of some great and uplifting messages this week. I did find some in the meantime so I thought I would share them with you viewers. Here they are:

Because of the rock foundation with God we have we do not not need to sink with Satan. All the sin in the world can't hurt you unless you let it in. We can't isolate our self from the world, we need to reach out for help and help others. We need to listen to the still small voice and promptings.God is here to back us up.

 Here is a nice quote by Robert fulghum I would like to share with you - I think you will like it.

"I am a fragment of  a mirror whose whole design and shape I do not know. Nevertheless, with what I have~ I can reflect light into the dark places of this world~into the black places in the hearts of men--and change some things in some people. Perhaps others may see and do likewise. This is what I am about. This is the meaning of my life." I think this is so true and very inspiring!

Update: a gentleman in my church came over and helped me fix all the flood damage and problems. Now, everything is back on track! He would not accept any money. He just goes around helping everyone in the stake . He says this is his way of doing service. In just a matter of a few hours everything is now back on track and good again. I relied on my rock and also had to reach out to others. So this week and from now on if you have hard times I would encourage you to do the same. I welcome your thoughts on this and your stories. Please weigh in on this and comment and share some things that have happened to you. We would love to hear form you.

I am still on my journey to meet Mr. right and this week I am going to sign up for E-harmony so wish me luck and I will keep you posted! '

Till next time Beverly.

Trials and Lessons Learned

Have you ever noticed how we go through life and we
are dealt trials and we wonder why?  I was wondering this yesterday and spent over two hours on the phone to one of my daughters. I've been struggling with a few lately! I later went to the movies to see Soul Surfer. It was excellent; a 12, on a scale of 1-10. It was the most heart warming spiritual movie and I highly recommend it to everyone. It is a true story about a young teenage girl that is a competition surfer. She is taking the world by storm and is top in surfing and winning awards etc. Suddenly one day she is out surfing with friends and is attacked by a dangerous shark.  The shark bites her arm off up to her shoulder. The movie is so good; I cried several times through it. Many times she struggles and does not want to surf any more. Her family struggles along with her and tries to help her through  and encourages her to get back into surfing, especially her dad. So, the movie shows her constant struggles and hard times.

I can relate to this because a few of my friends and my daughter have been trying to encourage me and give me their love and support lately through my trials and hard times. I always like to help others as we all do. But I thought about how hard it is to share my struggles sometimes with other like in the movie. The girl later goes to do some charity work over in Thailand where that first tsunami  hit and helped all those poor desperate  people. She learned that there are people worse off than her and it really humbled her and taught her some great lessons. She went back home, worked out and practiced surfing all she could. Then she entered one of the biggest competitions, scored very high and almost won. One of her worst rivals won. The one girl that won had given her such a hard time and was rude to her all through her life.  The girl  later sort of apologized.  She thanked her for giving her a hard time. She said that is what made her try harder and mold who she is today.  She was thankful for her trials.  Her family told her how sorry they were that she did not win and she told them yes she did win in other ways.

I learned so many lessons from the movie or I was reminded of how I don't have it so bad. You can all relate. I had to dig deep in my soul yesterday and ponder. I realized that we have many trials so that we  can learn many lessons and how to handle situations better. I learned that we have to reach out to others and sometimes listen. We need to let down our pride. We should do charity work and help others and serve which in turn helps us. The movie also taught we should not judge others and try to see things from their perspective. I mean here  I am seeing all the things I have been struggling with. The movie showed such unconditional love and support for one another!!!! I could go on and on. I should be thankful I don't have an arm cut off. I'm just lonely. I need to be thankful for the people that are giving me a hard time because they just want to make me try harder to be a better person! Oh, and  the girl in the movie also taught that we must forgive everyone!! I agree with all theses lessons but it is just trying to deal with certain situations and people that can be rough which I'm sure you will all agree.
 
 As we all go through this journey of life together we are constantly learning and trying until we can succeed . This in turn is going to shape and mold us for things to come. So, as we go through the next few weeks we will  grow and learn together and I welcome your comments. I love to read them. I have been learning a lot and the good comments have been bringing me joy and helping me. I hope  I can get rid of this pit in my stomach and not feel so lonely. I don't have a problem doing things alone and I am grateful for  my wonderful life, food friends, and all my blessings. I just don't want to go everywhere alone and could use some support. Hopefully through this blog I can conquer that!!!  I also hope we can use this blog for uplifting and helping each other together.

 til' next time ..Beverly